Infectious Joy – A “Family Fun Day” with Missionaries to the Family

One beloved aspect of the Missionaries to the Family community is gathering to share experiences and generally encourage one another on the journey. Missionaries and their families in the Diocese of Victoria, Texas, met for an annual “Family Fun Day” this past May 11 at the Bar Dot Ranch. Mass with Bishop Brendan Cahill highlighted the gathering, concelebrated by Father Jacob Koether, Episcopal Vicar for Evangelization and Catechesis, and Father Michael Rother. Twelve Missionary couples, along with their family members, joined in the day of food and fellowship, which included lawn games, fishing, and paddleboat rides!

Fr. Jacob shared, “I am very grateful for the work of Missionaries to the Family. Having couples in the parish who have intentionally considered their married life as a vocation and been formed in the Church’s vision of marriage causes a ripple effect that is difficult to put in words. My Missionary couples are the ones I rely on the most because they’re always available and willing to serve…their joy and passion are infectious. I can see healing taking place in their relationships and in their homes, and I can see spiritual renewal even happening in the lives of their children.  These Missionaries are proof that the saying – “So goes the family, so goes the world” – is true.  I wish all my married couples could be formed like this, because then my parish would be a true missionary community focused on preaching the Gospel and making disciples of Jesus. Thank you, Missionaries to the Family.”

Twenty missionary couples from 6 parishes currently serve in the Diocese of Victoria, and 6 more couples are entering formation this summer. Praise Him!

First Friday Devotion

At the end of the 17th century Our Lord appeared to St. Margaret Mary Alocoque (1647-1690) and asked her to spread devotion to His Most Sacred Heart. In a letter written to her Mother Superior in May 1688, St. Margaret Mary set out what is called The Great Promise Our Lord made regarding the Nine First Fridays and what we must do to earn it:

“On Friday during Holy Communion, He said these words to His unworthy slave, if I mistake not: ‘I promise you in the excessive mercy of My Heart that Its all-powerful love will grant to all those who receive Holy Communion on nine first Fridays of consecutive months the grace of final repentance; they will not die under My displeasure or without receiving their sacraments, My divine Heart making Itself their assured refuge at the last moment.’”


First Friday Requirements: To meet the requirements for the First Friday Devotion a person must, on each First Friday for nine consecutive months:

  1. Attend Holy Mas
  2. Receive Communion
  3. Go to Confession*

*Some Catholic resources on this devotion say that Confession is not strictly required unless you need the sacrament in order to receive a worthy Communion, in other words, you need to go to Confession so you can be in the state of grace before you can receive Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament. Other sources say you must go to Confession with in eight days before or after the Friday. Even if you are in the state of grace. If in doubt, consult your spiritual director. The more prevalent view prescribes the latter

The Twelve Promises listed below includes the “Great Promise” (number 12).

  1. I will give them all of the graces necessary for their state of life.
  2.  I will establish peace in their homes.
  3.  I will comfort them in all their afflictions.
  4.  I will be their strength during life and above all during death.
  5.  I will bestow a large blessing upon all their undertakings.
  6.  Sinners shall find in My Heart the source and the infinite ocean of mercy.
  7.  Tepid souls shall grow fervent.
  8.  Fervent souls shall quickly mount to high perfection.
  9.  I will bless every place where a picture of my heart shall be set up and honored.
  10.  I will give to priests the gift of touching the most hardened hearts.
  11.  Those who shall promote this devotion shall have their names written in My Heart, never to be blotted out.
  12.  I promise you in the excessive mercy of My Heart that My all-powerful love will grant all to those who communicate on the First Friday in nine consecutive months the grace of final penitence; they shall not die in My disgrace nor without receiving their sacraments; My Divine Heart shall be their safe refuge in this last moment.

She Shall Be Called Woman Registration Opens this Month!

In a couple of weeks, the Program Coordination team will contact the individuals on our list to provide the details you need to present the program to your parish.  Click here to join the list!


Program Overview:She Shall Be Called Woman is a transformative journey designed to meet the deepest longings of the feminine heart. Our program is a sanctuary for women seeking to be truly seen, known, and loved as they grow in their relationships with the Lord. Through vibrant conversations, authentic speakers, and enriching prayer experiences, we equip you with the tools to embark on a profound spiritual journey.

Each season features speakers from diverse stages of life. These inspiring women offer participants deeper insight into scriptural teachings, theological truths, and practical wisdom.


Program Structure:

She Shall Be Called Woman is a parish-based women’s program. The gatherings blend insightful video presentations with intimate small-group discussions, fostering a supportive environment for growth.

The program begins in September and consists of 18 weeks – 9 weeks in the fall and 9 weeks in the spring. Each meeting consists of 3 essential elements: fellowship with refreshments, video presentation, and discussion within small groups.


Program Content:

Masterpiece of Creation (Fall Season)

Timeline: September – November

Goal: To truly understand the way the Lord views femininity is to live as one who is fully alive. In a world that often speaks in cliches and labels, God desires to reveal who He is through a greater understanding of who we are. This season will not only unpack the wealth of celebration of what Saint John Paul II called “The Feminine Genius” but will also give real advice on how to combat the mental, emotional, and spiritual challenges we, as women, face every day.

The Ten Virtues of Mary (Spring Season)

Timeline: January – April

Goal: The Blessed Mother is our perfect example of what it is to be a woman in love with the Lord. Saint Louis De Montfort defined ten virtues that Mary exhibited that defined her life. These virtues are challenging, but they aren’t impossible. This season will shed a deep light on each of these virtues while offering approachable tips on how these virtues can better your life, your friendship, and your family.

Make a Permanent Impression That Will Last Forever!

As part of Paradisus Dei’s Lift the Spire! campaign, we have developed naming opportunities within our Houston office center that provide an opportunity for a donor to make a permanent impression that will last forever. Honor your family’s name, a special family member or loved one, or pay tribute to someone who helped you by demonstrating your everlasting support for the beauty and dignity of Catholic family and marriage life which is the core of our mission at Paradisus Dei.

Your naming opportunity will be permanent and will be prominently displayed with a beautiful plaque pertinent to the naming opportunity you choose. Should Paradisus Dei move to a new facility in the future, your naming opportunity will be transferrable to a comparable space, to be agreed upon by the donor and Paradisus Dei.

Please contact our Vice President of Development, Len Bertolini, at
[email protected] or 630.242.0611 if you have questions or would like to discuss one of the naming opportunities.

Share the Joy and Become a Missionary to the Family

“Missionaries to the Family is the heart of Paradisus Dei.”
– Steve Bollman
The next class of Missionaries to the Family begins this July!  If you are passionate about sharing the joy of your married life with others, deepening your understanding of your faith as a couple, and serving your community, then Missionaries to the Family is an opportunity you do not want to miss.

Our missionaries focus on direct, personal accompaniment of other couples and small groups within the home. By inviting others into their homes and lives through spiritual friendship, missionaries can share the joy they have found in discovering Christ hidden in their home.

Email us at [email protected] with any questions.

April Mission Night – “The Best One Yet!”

Men and women from across the country and abroad joined the Program Coordination team and Michael Gormley to learn more about bringing TMIY to their parish.  Michael’s message about WHY bringing TMIY to one’s parish is needed and worth the effort resonated with the audience.

Check out Gomer’s video HERE!

These meetings are having an impact.  If you know anyone interested in starting a TMIY in English or Spanish (EHET).  Please share the dates and registration link from our Mission Control Page. Registration for Fall of 2024 open!

Visit our Mission Control page for updates and resources for spreading the word about TMIY!

Mission Night June 12 | Join Us or Share this Link:

EHET Mission Night July 11 | Join Us or Share this Link:

TMIY Fall Registration is OPEN!

Registration is Now Open for New & Returning TMIY Classes for Fall of 2024 


New Parishes:

To start TMIY, a parish needs their pastor’s approval and a core team of men.  The program content is FREE and we will journey with you every step of the way. Reach out to [email protected] if you are interested in starting TMIY at your parish or if you would like to introduce us to someone who does. Be sure to sign up for our first Mission Night!


Join Us On Mission:

If only 1% of TMIY Men helped to start one new Parish, we would be at 1000 parishes this fall.

In TMIY’s 20 years, we have reached over 150,000 men.  However, there are more men who have not experienced the formation and brotherhood of TMIY than those who have.  If you or someone you know needs something like That Man is You! join us on Mission to grow TMIY.  Visit our Mission Control page to find strategies and see our progress in growing TMIY and changing lives. TMIY Mission Control is your one stop online resource to assist you with inviting new parishes to join TMIY.

Visit Our Mission Control Page


TMIY Mission Night is scheduled for April 24th at 7:00 pm CT. 

Please help us fill the room as we share about what TMIY is, it’s impact and how a new parish can get started.

Mission Nights are online meetings for pastors, parish staff, and men who do not currently have TMIY at their parish.  Please help us get the word out. Whether it’s a phone call, text, DM, or email – you never know the impact you might have through the simple act of invitation.

Share This Registration Link With a Friend!

Missionaries to the Family – Now Accepting Applications!

The next class of Missionaries to the Family begins this July!  If you are passionate about sharing the joy of your married life with others, deepening your understanding of your faith as a couple, and serving your community, then Missionaries to the Family is an endeavor you don’t want to miss.

Our missionaries focus on direct, personal accompaniment of other couples and small groups within the home. By inviting others into their homes and lives through spiritual friendship, missionaries can share the joy they have found in discovering Christ hidden in their home.

Applications are due by May 15th. Complete the Application HERE
Email us at [email protected] with any questions.

TMIY – Lent is a Time to Invite Others on the Journey

Lent is a time to quiet our hearts and our lives and to return to what is essential – our relationship with the Lord.

Journeying with brothers throughout Lent has always been a highlight of the TMIY program. During this holy season of Lent, we want to ask you to invite other men, from your parish and beyond, to take this journey back to the Father’s heart with you.

Once men have experienced TMIY themselves, it’s natural that they will then want to keep coming or even bring TMIY to their home parish!

Who knows the impact that your one invitation can have on man, his family, and his parish?

TMIY registration for the Fall of 2024 opens on April 1st. 

Interested in starting TMIY at your parish? Contact us at: [email protected]

Live Filming & Veterans Visit with Fr. Mode

On February 15, Fr. Daniel Mode CHC (CAPT), USN, filmed a TMIY talk for the upcoming TMIY Year, Apostles of the New Springtime. Fr. Mode is the author of the book, The Grunt Padre, about the life of Servant of God, Fr. Vincent Capodanno. The message fits perfectly with the new year of TMIY’s section about modern-day apostles. Fr. Mode’s message on spiritual friendships and making friends with the saints and men and women of heroic virtue is sure to resonate with the men of That Man Is You.

Following the filming, Fr. Mode took the time to meet with local TMIY veterans who were able to view the filming live from a local conference room. Fr. Mode answered questions about Fr. Capodanno and his cause for canonization and shared more about his work as a chaplain. The meeting ended on a high note with Fr. Mode granting his challenge coin to the eldest veteran in the room, Deacon Dale Steffes.

You can learn more about the cause of canonization of Fr. Capodanno by going to the Guild website –

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