Missionaries to the Family Are Making an Impact

In 2019, Paradisus Dei launched a new ministry called Missionaries to the Family to help combat the collapse of marriage and family in our culture. It forms modern marriages and families upon the model of the Holy Family at Nazareth. Couples discern this calling for their own family, receive the formation needed to live that life in their own homes, and share what they have learned with other couples and families through intentional, spiritual friendships and accompaniment. After their formation year, they begin their active mission work, which takes place right in their own homes and communities.

The first class of missionary couples completed their formation year and were commissioned in the summer of 2020. The second class will be commissioned this summer. And the third class is now being assembled and will begin formation this August. The first missionary couples have already begun their active mission work, and in spite of the pandemic-restricted environment, they are having an impact! Their work includes leading marriage preparation sessions, leading marriage enrichment efforts, hosting young adult and family small groups in their home, and even leading regional outreach to recruit other missionary couples.

Win and Erinn Vahlkamp belong to St. Laurence in Sugar Land, TX. Their active mission work began with leading a parish marriage enrichment initiative based on content presented in their formation year. After that, the Vahlkamps invited couples to form a small community that meets out of their home. Eight couples continued in that fashion, meeting every other Friday. “Conversations have been remarkably deep. We’ve had to cut ourselves short because they’ve gone so long,” offered Win. Erinn shared, “It feels really great to get to the point to have a small group and develop friendships…just deepening our faith and growing.” Through those spiritual friendships, the group has already provided support for those tough moments of everyday life, most notably when a member lost a parent. “These are groups that care about each other and can be there for each other, build you up, do life together. There is a lack of that. That’s a rare gift,” said Win.

Carlos and Rebecca Carrillo, members of Christ the Redeemer parish in Houston, TX, led a pilot program for couples last October on behalf of the parish. When asked about getting couples involved, Carlos commented, “In our case, it was surprising how well it worked. Six couples accepted right away.” Carlos further spoke of the great need for groups like this. “There is a need to help other couples. Every couple in the group shared that they have no one else to share their faith journey with,” he said. As a result, many of the couples are interested in continuing as a small group, and three new couples expressed a desire to join as well. Carlos summed it up by saying, “People are waiting for that opportunity, particularly as a couple.”

Deacon Richard and Tina Grant are members of Our Lady of Mercy parish in Baton Rouge, LA, where Deacon Grant also serves on staff. The diocese has seven missionary couples actively engaged in mission work with three more scheduled to be commissioned this summer. Reflecting on the impact of their work so far, Deacon Grant said, “We are restarting every ministry again after Covid. These are the people who are going to do them. They will have the full support of the parish.” During the pandemic-related restrictions, the missionary couples were invaluable to the parish in keeping marriage preparation going. They were able to host the engaged couples in their homes. The engaged couples witnessed different Catholic couples and households as they rotated through four missionary couples during the course of marriage preparation. Missionary couples will continue to leverage this model and host newly married couples to experience The Choice Wine: 7 Steps to a Superabundant Marriage. Deacon Grant noted that the missionary couples “…are not only taking more of a leadership role in their own homes, but in the parish. They become more visible. They planted a seed and now the seed is sprouting into other areas of parish life.” He went on to say, “Our pastor is pleasantly surprised when he hears these things the couples are doing.”

These examples highlight the tremendous work being done by just some of couples from the first group of Missionaries to the Family. This fall, couples from the second group will begin their active mission work. The ministry is structured so that additional missionary couples enter into the mission field each year after they complete their formation. When they do so, they can rely on key learnings so far: the need is great, it’s not hard to get started, and the results are so worth the effort. As this ministry grows, it will not only meet the great need that exists but also begin to transform the culture one family at a time.

Please join us in praying for the missionary couples, whether in formation or active mission work. May God bless them abundantly in their calling and their work.

Please visit our website for more information about Missionaries to the Family, or contact us.

Virtual Rosary Each Friday

The Power of 500 Men in Prayer!

An army of men is growing! Every week, over 500 gather virtually from around the globe to pray the Rosary together. It’s powerful. It’s beautiful. We invite you to unite with us in prayer as we fight the good fight of faith!

We invite all TMIY men to join us in praying the Rosary every Friday morning. You do not have to be a member of Amici di Giuseppe to join us.

Join Us on Friday Mornings:

  • Fridays at 6:30 A.M. CENTRAL Time
  • Zoom Meeting Link – CLICK HERE
  • Zoom Meeting ID – 881 4976 0365
  • Phone Dial-In number: 346-248-7799

A New Book Release by Mark Hartfiel

The Hinge of the Hail Mary

Take your prayer life to new heights. Tap into the treasury of graces in heaven. Provide spiritual protection over your family, the Church and the world.

The Hinge of the Hail Mary: The Art of Praying the Rosary, a brand-new release by Mark Hartfiel, helps make an old prayer new. Inspired by the writings of Pope St. John Paul II, Hartfiel offers a profound spiritual framework for praying the Rosary.

“A prayer so easy and yet so rich truly deserves to be rediscovered. May this appeal of mine not go unheard!” – Pope St. John Paul II

Rediscover the Rosary and learn how to:

  • Weaponize it with intentionality.
  • Amplify your prayer with focused contemplation.

The Hinge of the Hail Mary is the perfect gift for yourself, family, friends, pastor, deacon or small group. It is especially timely for a world and Church so desperately in need of our prayers.  Click this link to get your copy today. For bulk order discount opportunities (10 or more), please inquire at info@paradisusdei.org.

Let’s Get Started

Men Need Spiritual Nourishment Now More Than Ever!

One size does not fit all. This is especially true during these uncertain times of phased, restricted parish re-openings. That’s why TMIY customizes the experience to the specific needs of each parish. This includes:

  • In-person gatherings with appropriate guidelines.
  • Virtual gatherings, with movement from large to small groups in the same meeting.
  • Small group only gatherings, “parking lot” style or virtual.
  • Support for a hybrid program running both in-person and virtual groups.
  • Diocesan-driven implementation on behalf of parishes in the diocese.
  • Flexible scheduling, offering start times later in the fall.
  • Any combination of the above, with the ability to change midstream as needed

Don’t put it off. Help parishes provide men the spiritual nourishment they need.

Join over 600 parishes! Let’s Get Started!

Contact us at info@paradisusdei.org.

Virtual TMIY Process

Updated Virtual Process Recommended for this Fall

We’ve all come a long way since the original COVID-19 restrictions this past spring. Some key learnings were gleaned along the way. The Paradisus Dei Team now recommends a virtual process for TMIY that follows the in-person meeting format. Learn the process and access the tutorial videos here:

That Man is You Toolkit – Virtual

2020 – TMIY Man of the Year

Meet our 2020 Man of the Year – Kevin Gibbs!  Fittingly, we call this the St. Joseph Award.

Kevin leads his local core team in Ottawa, was instrumental in helping launch the first 1st annual St. Joseph’s Oratory Pilgrimage to Montreal, and is currently a volunteer on the TMIY Mission Team.  He is personally reaching out to over 30 parishes to tell them them about TMIY!


“A man with a wounded heart can help a man with a wounded mind.” – Kevin Gibbs


“No matter where you are in your journey, how troublesome your early years have been, how deep the wounds are, how long you have struggled, how many times you have failed, how many times you have slid back into sin, what struggles you have gone through or are going through right now…the Lord knows everything about you and He loves you more than you can imagine.  He wants to meet you right where you are…right here …right now… and take you further!” – Kevin Gibbs

Pilgrimage Into the Heart of St. Joseph

St. Joseph is the hidden, silent, yet massive spiritual force behind everything we do in TMIY! The greatest fruit of TMIY would be that more and more men become like St. Joseph. I would like to invite you to an incredible spiritual experience: Join me, Fr. Peter Towsley and 30 TMIY men to the largest shrine in the world dedicated to St. Joseph! Together, we will journey into the heart of this great Saint. Details follow.

Cost $299 – Includes lodging, five meals, three private tours, and metro passes. Travel to and from the retreat site not included.  For pilgrims who wish to arrive a day early, add a Thursday night stay to your registration for an extra $100.  Thursday pilgrims will enjoy an unforgettable light show within Notre Dame Montreal as well as a visit to see St. Kateri on Friday morning.

Lodging at John XXIII Pavilion Hotel – Just steps away from the Oratory, this quaint retreat center in the heart of downtown Montreal is highly sought after by pilgrims and will make the perfect home base for this event. The entire building is ours for the weekend.


Register Here for September 2020


Yours in Christ,
Mark Hartfiel
Vice-President, Paradisus Dei







An All-New TMIY is Here!

It is unlike anything we have

ever done before!

Three brand new years!  New speakers, new topics, new approach!

These new years brings together 21 dynamic speakers from a range of backgrounds to the TMIY stage to present The Vision of Man Fully Alive , The Fight of Faith and All Things New. Experience a change of pace and many engaging personalities within the same great format. Now is the perfect time to join or re-join TMIY!

For more information, contact us at info@paradisusdei.org.

The Door: The Power of Presence

Paradisus Dei would like to share a brand-new video project with you.  Reactions to initial viewings have been humbling:

“WOW WOW WOW! Gave me chills, moved me to tears,
and inspired me to be a better man.”

“When can we share this??”

“You need to get this video out…to everybody!”

We invite you to take a look at The Door. Feel free to share it. Send it to every good man you know and include a personal message. Post it on social media. Help empower change and transform families.
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