Pope Francis Says Every Married Couple Must Know These 3 Words

During his papacy, Pope Francis has given practical advice for married couples to avoid struggles in their marriage. Whether in his post-synodal apostolic exhortation, Amoris Laetitia, or in addresses, the Holy Father has made marriage a key area of teaching.

In one speech, Pope Francis shared three words he says are key to a successful marriage.

“Sometimes they ask me how to make it so that the family always goes forward and overcomes difficulties, I suggest to them to practice three words. These words can help to live married life because in married life there are difficulties,” adding that marriage is something we have to take care of, “because it’s forever.”


The three words are “permission, gratitude, and forgiveness.”


 On the topic of permission, the Pope said to “always ask your spouse, the wife to the husband and the husband to the wife, ‘what do you think, what do you think if we do this?’” rather than just “running over” the other without getting their opinion.

He also stressed the need to be grateful, “because it’s the spouses who confer the sacrament of marriage, one to the other. And this sacramental relationship is maintained with this sentiment of gratitude, of thanks.”

The third word, he noted, is forgiveness, which is “a very hard word to say.” In marriage, mistakes are always made, he said, noting that the important thing is to know how to recognize one’s mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

This “does a lot of good,” Francis continued, urging families and engaged couples to “remember these three words, which will help you a lot in married life: permission, thank you, and forgiveness.”

8 Traditional Irish Prayers For Your Marriage

The Emerald Isle, Ireland, has a deep faith that runs back to the time of Saint Patrick himself. Out of this long tradition of faith, coupled with a unique Irish perspective, have come some of the most beautiful and elegantly simple prayers.

One particular prayer tradition from Ireland is wedding blessings meant to be prayed on wedding days and by spouses throughout their marriage.

Here are a few traditional Irish wedding blessings:

“May the raindrops fall lightly on your brow

May the soft winds freshen your spirit

May the sunshine brighten your heart

May the burdens of the day rest lightly upon you

And may God enfold you in the mantle of His love.”

~ Irish Marriage Prayer

“May you have love that never ends,

lots of money, and lots of friends.

Health be yours, whatever you do,

and may God send many blessings to you!”

~ Irish Words of Wisdom for Weddings

“May you always walk in sunshine.

May you never want for more.

May Irish angels rest their wings Right beside your door.”

 “May your troubles be less,

And your blessings be more.

And nothing but happiness,

Come through your door.”

~ Traditional Irish Wedding Blessing

“With the first light of sun- Bless you.

When the long day is done- Bless you.

In your smiles and your tears- Bless you.

Through each day of your years- Bless you.”

~ Traditional Irish Wedding Blessing

“May you enjoy the four greatest blessings:

Honest work to occupy you.

A hearty appetite to sustain you.

A good woman to love you.

And a wink from the God above.”

~ Irish Words of Encouragement for the Groom

“May the embers from the open hearth warm your hands,

 May the sun’s rays from the Irish sky warm your face,

May the children’s bright smiles warm your heart,

May the everlasting love I give you warm your soul.”

~ Irish Wedding Vow

“May your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace.

May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.

May the saddest day of your future

Be no worse than the happiest day of your past.

May your hands be forever clasped in friendship

And your hearts joined forever in love.

Your lives are very special,

God has touched you in many ways.

May his blessings rest upon you

And fill all your coming days.”

~ Wedding Wishes From Ireland

“Happy is the bride that rain falls on

May your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace.

May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.

May the saddest day of your future

Be no worse than the happiest day of your past.

May your hands be forever clasped in friendship

And your hearts joined forever in love.

Your lives are very special,

God has touched you in many ways.

May his blessings rest upon you

And fill all your coming days.

We swear by peace and love to stand,

Heart to heart and hand to hand.

Hark, O Spirit, and hear us now,

Confirming this our Sacred Vow.”

~Traditional Irish Marriage Prayer

These simple prayers truly capture the spirit of prayer in marriage. They capture the spirit of two people, praying that God bless their days and keep their marriage. A marriage rooted in God, where spouses that pray these simple prayers, are the kind of marriages that last.

How To Get A Papal Blessing For Your Marriage

Official Papal Blessings make an absolutely perfect wedding gift or an anniversary gift to your spouse. They can be received upon one’s wedding, or on the 10th, 25th, 40th, 50th, and 60th wedding anniversaries. The blessings come in the form of a beautifully ornate parchment with meticulous calligraphic text and an image of the current pontiff on the top.

These are two ways to obtain a blessing; by directly visiting The Office of Papal Charities, or by mail (they don’t accept email or phone requests).

Requests for Papal Blessings on parchment can be sent to the Office of Papal Charities only by regular post. The address is:

Elemosineria Apostolica
Parchment Office
00120 Vatican City

The request should include:
 
  • the name, surname and address of the person making the request
  • the name and surname of the person(s) for whom the blessing is being requested
  • the reason or occasion prompting the request
  • the date, the name of the Church and the address are required when the blessing is requested for the celebration of a sacrament, a religious profession or an anniversary
  • the address of where to send the parchment and payment details.
It typically takes about one month from the date when the request is received for the Apostolic Blessing parchment to be delivered. The typical cost ranges from €13-€25 plus €10-€30 for shipping. The payment should be made after you receive the Papal Blessing and can be made via a bank transfer (the banking coordinates will be sent to you in the same parcel as the parchment) or by online credit card payment via their website.